21 Again?

You would think that not believing a lie would be easy right? Obviously it’s not true.

The fact is a fabrication is just that, it’s a lie, it’s been made up and is an untruth but what if you’ve been told this lie over and over again. What if you’ve been told you are not worth anything? It’s a LIE. What if you were taunted that you’d never be happy? It’s a LIE. What if you’ve been told you are ugly and nobody will want you? It’s a LIE. What if you’ve been told the only way is out is death? It’s a LIE.

These lies are sometimes inflicted upon us in an angry moment….. it may have been someone who entirely thought that you would forget what they uttered, just an ‘in the moment anger insult’. Isn’t it funny that our minds gravitate to the negative words people say to us? Isn’t funny or maybe not so funny… how our minds repeat negative slurs we hear other people say. The snears, the accusatory voices, the nasty words that stain our minds and repeat over and over, and over again.

As humans, we do tend to sway to the negative rather than the positive BUT we also have the power to retrain our minds to focus on the positive… it’s been said that we can break bad habits in 21 days and in the same way, we can also make good habits in 21 days.

We have control over our minds, we have the power to flush our minds of the unnecessary jibes that others or our own self-hatred may have inflicted upon us.

If you feel as though you’re a negative person, I’d like to suggest that you do this exercise for 21 days. Try to write something positive about yourself; if there has ever in your life been someone that complimented you about this positive trait, I want you to focus on this. Try to think of a new trait that is great about yourself every day of the 21 day challenge. It may be something that you’ve done that you don’t really think is important, such as, giving to homeless people, great sense of style or going the extra mile for your family members and friends.

Once you’ve done this for 21 days, I can guarantee that you’ll be a happier and grateful person who sees themselves in a positive manner. It’ll be hard to flush the toxic memories, labels and thoughts out of your mind at first BUT PUSH THROUGH….

‘God saw all that he had made, and it was very good’  Genesis 1:31

Hope for tomorrow!

Michiboo

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Start Over – It’s Your Time!

Not to belittle our problems and issues we face in life but nothing is too big to bounce back from.  Maybe you’ve had a few months of illness, heartbreak or bad breaks.

Everyday presents us with a brand new chance to be great, to be happy but it’s a choice – everything that hindered you is now in the past.  You don’t need to let it take up space in your mind anymore…. your destiny is in your reach.  You need to believe that you have eveything you need to start again whether it’s to change your career, start a new business, where you live or even chase after your dreams.  Change takes a lot of courage and so does believing in yourself.  If you’ve been in a downward spiral are you aware that you can change that cycle?  Yes, you have the power to choose your path, to choose to be happy, to choose to live  your best life.

This is the day the Lord has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it

Psalms 118:24

Change your mindset – control should be inward because it can be the start of engaging your thoughts, words, actions positively and ultimately reach your destiny to align with your God-given potential.

A guy approached me a few years ago and said to me – “Jesus loves you… only you can achieve what God wants you to do on earth” – I never forgot that.  It is so true… whatever you desire to do is actually a God planted seed within you.  We are all capable of greatness… we just need to realise the greatness within us first.

GO ON, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF – IT WILL PAY OFF!

Hope for tomorrow

Michiboo

How To Overcome Bullies

BLOG PIC2I’ve been dealing with some immature comments lately, the person seems to be happy to throw a whole load of insults and insinuations without thinking how I or anyone else feels for that matter.  Office politics is something that we have all had to deal with at some point in time.  I decided a long time ago that I would not be pulled into a tit for tat cycle.   Of course, being human there are times when you just feel it’s necessary to stick up for yourself and let them know that they’re not dealing with a walkover.  The few times I have decided to answer the petty jibes, has left me without peace.  I felt angry that I’d let someone get under my skin.  Bullies raise their ugly heads in all walks of life and although it is difficult to deal with, you can overcome the feeling of embarrassment and degradation it brings.

First thing, you must do is not give them a slight inkling that they’re getting to you. It’s possible that they just want a reaction, a moment where they can see you squirm, suffer even.  Start to analyse them – do they wait until there’s a lot of people in the room before they belittle you?  Then it’s obvious they need to feel important, unfortunately they obtain they’re warped power at your expense.  Don’t let them ruffle your feathers, smile and if possible, put space between yourselves and them.  Maybe the person is upset that you have the position you’re in, it could be that they applied for the job or envy your promotion.  If jealousy is they’re motive, be wary of the ways they try to discredit you… be polite but firm and face them without be flustered.  You do not need to prove yourself to them but it’s necessary to be calm, cool and collected to ensure they’re covert tactics to make you seem incompetent don’t work.  By studying your opponent as it were, you’ll have peace about the situation and be ready for each and every time they try to bully you.
You may be a teen or a  young person reading this surprised that bullying occurs in the adult world.  It sure seems unthinkable but child bullies often find it hard to drop those habits as they get older.  I’m sure, your parents have also told you not to pay attention to bullies and tell the teacher or lecturer.  I also want you to take this approach of analysing those that try to belittle you. Once you start to analyse the bully, you will see that in some way they feel inadequate to you.  Maybe they are intimidated by your intelligence, your good looks or your family background.  Once you have begun to think about it, their hard armour of being a bully begins not to look so scary after all! You’ll see that actually they are scared, intimidated individuals that don’t have much going for them.  Use that knowledge to aid you in moving on and to forget their toxic words and actions. Consciously reject everything they have called you and reaffirm your value to yourself.  You don’t have to let them scar your mind.

I hope this has been helpful for you…. don’t ever let them win.

Romans 12:18-19
18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”[a] says the Lord. (NIV)

Hope for tomorrow

Michiboo x

The Change The World Needs Is Us

Most of us want to live in a society free from war, hate, pollution and poverty.  We vote for our political leaders in the hope that they will make a difference. We donate to charities in the hope that our contributions will help diminish poverty and aid the cause of the charity. Yet these things are not the only way we can help change the world.

Changing the world doesn’t end with political power and riches, it’s also important that we become the change we want to see in the world. It may be in checking in on the nice old pensioner across the road, giving a lift to your colleague who travels the same way as you, putting the trolley back at the supermarket, putting your trash in the public bin. You see we all have the power to make a difference and be a blessing.

I’ve tried to be a blessing in these little ways, for instance I always try to ensure I speak to the check out person and be kind as they always seem to be overlooked by people preoccupied with their busy lives… they always appreciate it.

You see not only does it help others but it helps ourselves.  When we start to look outwards to see if there’s a need to be met, it allows us to be more positively focused rather than on our own flaws, issues and worries.  Once our focus is on helping others we inadvertently bless ourselves, we have a sense of satisfaction and elevation for our spirits and moods.

Matthew 5:14 – 16
14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. (NIV)

Go ahead be the difference you want to see in the world!

Hope for tomorrow

Michiboo

Your Personal “Good Friday”

Yesterday, I thought how God gave his only son for us – I began to think of all the suffering God knew Jesus would undergo; God knew Jesus would at some point question whether God had forsaken him… But God still sent Jesus because He knew the masterplan.  God knew Jesus’ name would be above all names, that demons would tremble and run at the very sound of Jesus’ name.  God knew Jesus would be sat on his right hand, God knew Jesus would be worshipped in the heavens and the earth. So God sent his only son to suffer and die on the cross – so that anyone who believed on Jesus would be saved and have eternal life.

‘For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.’  John 3:16

If it feels as though you are in your own personal hellish suffering and you don’t understand how God would allow it or whether God has forsaken you.  Remember, just like His son Jesus – God has a plan to lift you, prosper you, glorify Himself in you to give you hope and a future. It might feel like the darkest time of your life but one day it will be looked back on as your own personal “Good Friday”

‘… For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ Jeremiah 29:11

Hosanna in the highest! Most High God, our Alpha and Omega.

Hope for tomorrow

Michiboo

Jump For Life!

Hello everyone!  It’s been a while since I posted a blog… I’m inspired by two incidents that happened yesterday.  On the way to work to central London, someone jumped under a train, the station was evacuated.  The buses were packed so as I made my way to work on foot, I began to feel a huge amount of empathy and sense of a waste of life for the person who attempted to take their life.  Unfortunately on the way home, someone else jumped to their death infront of a fast train.  I feel grateful that I have hope and faith – some people encounter so many setbacks and obstacles in life that they find it hard to keep alive.  I believe no matter how bad our situations, there is a light at the end of the tunnel… if we can just remember that another day rises after midnight.  I’m glad I’m alive because I have been there…. I suffered from depression, around 7 years ago, I was at my lowest ebb remember thinking (obviously the devil’s lie) ‘no one will miss you if you were gone.. this pain is too much to bare… end it tonight’ I was alone at a bus stop – a group of Hispanic evangelists came up to me and broke my chain of thought.  They told me they were led to pray for me and asked if they could.  They laid hands on me and began to pray – I realized God loved me very much, he knew my thoughts, he saw my need and came to my aid expressly.  In 2013 I remember going through complete continual turmoil, the anguish gripped me to a point that I stayed at home by myself in fear confined to my sofa, gripped by fear, those same lies tried to take hold of my soul.   I remember feeling as though Jesus himself was standing behind me to the side of the sofa – I heard the Word ‘Shalom’ (meaning peace).  This broke the chains of defeat and I began singing Shalom over and over again.  I have never looked back since, the spirit of suicide was rebuked. The devil is a thief and liar trying to stifle and steal people’s lives one way or another BUT GOD kept me, so I wouldn’t let go!  We overcome by blood of Jesus and the word of our testimony.  Thank you Jesus!!

Psalms 34:17-20

When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles.  The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.  Many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivers him out of them all.

Hope for Tomorrow

Michiboo xx

Growing Pains

Have you ever wondered why?  How?  Meandering through life sometimes can leave you winded and filled with questions.  Why did my life turn out this way?  Why didn’t I get the same breaks as the next person?  The truth is every event and circumstance in our lives were not meant to break us.  The disappointments, bad breaks builds us up… if we allow it.  It will build resilience within us in the same way a body builder’s muscles get stronger through tough training and resistance.  Bad times have taught me to appreciate the good times.  Disloyal people taught me the character traits to avoid and appreciate the good traits in great people.

My focus is changing from negative aspects of an experience to recognising the lessons in each experience.  I am learning every thing that happens is an opportunity to grow.  Nothing ever just happens, there is a purpose for it, whether it is to prepare you for a similar event or to give you insight to help a loved one later down the line.  Sometimes pain can be beneficial – physically if we don’t have any symptoms, often manifested as pain, we would never know something was wrong.  Just remember you will find the purpose for your pain.

 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11 NIV Bible

Hope for tomorrow

Michiboo